Is someone in your lifE tearing you down?

When we think about roadblocks to taking care of ourselves, we usually think about our daily responsibilities and tangible barriers that get in our way.

“I always have to work late and don’t have time for the gym.”

“I spend my weekends with my family and can’t make time to meal prep.”

“I can’t afford a gym membership right now.”

But what about the company we keep? Are the people in your life reinforcing your healthy habits, or are they creating new barriers and challenges for you?

I truly, deeply believe that our success in any pursuit is directly tied to the company we keep. A unified team of coworkers allows us to thrive at work. A supportive group of friends can get us through almost anything.

On the other hand, if others in your circle are insecure, selfish, and just plain unsupportive, they may make it much more difficult for you to thrive in your fitness – physical and emotional.

Cultivating Supportive Relationships:

Be honest about your intentions to improve your health and wellness with the people who are important to you. This is especially important if your availability to spend time with these people is going to change (because you'll be meal prepping and rockin it in the gym).

Find others who have fitness goals, too! I know it can be awkward to introduce yourself to a random stranger, but it can seriously pay off! Some of my best friends are girls I met at a fitness class.

Minding Toxic Relationships

I say "minding" toxic relationships because you may not be able to completely rid yourself of people who may be toxic to your fitness (maybe you're related to them, you work with them, they're mostly amazing in every other way...).

Be mindful about how you feel when you're with this person. Do they disagree with your healthy way of life? Do they feel so insecure about themselves that they ridicule you for trying?

If you don't feel supported and heard by this person, it might be time to express your frustration with them. Who knows, maybe they're angry because they see you making progress and they feel that they never will. If their behavior doesn't change, you may need to be more selective about what you share with them. In extreme cases, you may have to cut them out of your life completely.

I know this stuff can be hard. I also know that being surrounded by a tribe of people who love and support you unconditionally is one of the most fulfilling things we can do for ourselves.

Remember, you always have a tribe cheering you on in Heartmybody. Share your journey using the hashtag #HMBgirl so we can be there for you. I believe in you!